Brown suggests that you write something down to get them out in the open by using these six sentence starters: 1) the story I’m making up….
This helps us foster awareness about our stories. Anne Lamott uses the idea that we should write our own SFD – shitty first draft (or stormy for younger ages).
Brown suggests that you ask these questions: 1)What more do I need to learn and understand about the situation? 2) What more do I need to learn and understand about the other people in the story?3) What more do I need to learn and understand about myself?īrown discusses in the “Rumble” chapter that “in the absence of data, we will always make up stories.” Some of these are confabulations – stories we make up that we think are true but are honestly told. Typically when something happens, we create a story that is driven by our emotions. Many high-stress workers use this in military, fire fighting, police, and teachers. Brown uses the Maya Angelou quote: “you many not control all that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”ĭuring the “Reckoning” chapter, Brown explains the box breathing method of Breath in for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, breathe out for 4 seconds and hold for four seconds. Then we enter the revolution where we write our new ending based on the key learnings from our rumble and use this new, braver story to change how we engage with the world and to ultimately transform the way we live, love, parent and lead. Then we go into the rumble where we get honest about the stories we’re making up about our struggle, then challenge these confabulations and assumptions to determine what’s truth, what’s self-protection, and what needs to change if we want to lead more wholehearted lives. The “Rising Strong” process has a reckoning where we recognize emotion, get curious about our feelings and connect with the way we think and behave. For women, it is usually around appearance and body image, for men is around strength and courage. Most of our vulnerability comes from not thinking that we are enough. We move what we’re learning from our heads to our hearts through our hands 6) rising strong is the same process whether you’r navigating personal or professional struggles 7) comparative suffering is a function of fear and scarcity 8)you can’t engineer an emotional, vulnerable, and courageous process into a one-size-fits-all formula 9) courage is contagious 10) rising strong is a spiritual practice. “Vulnerability is not winning or losing it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.” Brown’s rules of engagement for rising strong are: 1)if we are brave enough often enough, we will fall this is the physics of vulnerability 2) once we fall in the service of being brave, we can never go back 3) this journey belongs to no one but you however, no one successfully goes it alone 4) we’re wired for story 5)creativity embeds knowledge so that it can become practice. Brown in book describes “The Gifts of Imperfection” – Be You “Daring Greatly” – Be All In and “Rising Strong”- Fall. Brené Brown does the research to understand why we act the way we do. She starts with “ The Gifts of Imperfection“. I have read all three of Brené Brown’s books.